Ugh! Confrontation. No one really enjoys it, do they? Most people will avoid it at all costs. Ahh and there’s the rub—the cost is huge and the only person paying the price is the one who has the bottled up feelings and the unresolved conflict. Holding it in is incredibly unhealthy.
I don’t love confrontation but I am certainly not afraid of it—when it is used for the right reasons and handled in the right way. No one wants to be shamed, humiliated, or disrespected, nor should they be. That type of confrontation will only result in everyone staunchly defending him or herself and will usually breed resentment and make matters worse.
The Latin derivation of confront is “foreheads together.” It’s about having enough self-respect to stand up for yourself & speak your truth. Convey your problem as you see it from your perspective. Take responsibility for your part in this communication breakdown. And always come prepared with some positive outcomes you wish to achieve. Confrontation shouldn’t be a fight, it should be a constructive resolution that raises both parties.
I scheduled a meeting for tomorrow that can only be described as confrontation. I laid out my plan on paper. I’m doing this for me as a sign of self-respect.