“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.” – Malcolm Forbes
Why do we do this to ourselves? For most, the fulcrum will never sit in the middle on this one. I would love to attribute this distortion to being humble, but that may be giving us too much credit. Sadly, I believe it’s because, over time, we have succumbed to listening to our inner critic as if it speaks the gospel truth—and it doesn’t.
Here’s the good news: it can be reversed. We’ve just fallen into a bad habit of allowing our inner critic to question our abilities and perhaps how they rank against others or even how they measure up against our own bar. Forbes’ quote is all about confidence & self-esteem, or the lack there of. So how do we intentionally move the fulcrum in our favor?
There are many ways to bolster self confidence, but here are three. First, mentally challenge your inner critic. When it tries to undermine your value and abilities, choose to disagree! You can do that, you know! Boldly disagree! Second, write down your strengths and achievements. Keep a list. Call it your, “I’m a Rockstar” list or whatever you want, but have it available as a reference from now on—especially during times of doubt, fear, uncertainly, and hesitation. And third, every day, write down your Big Win for the day. Remind yourself every day how well you are doing! This is important. Let’s GO! We got this!